Kick the Bucket List

Could we please get rid of the phrase "bucket list?"

I saw a girl in her early twenties use it the other day on Facebook about an activity she had wanted to try.

Unless she knows something about her health that no one else does, she doesn't get to say that.

But even for someone my age, let's stop it.  It implies we are going to die soon.  It implies that life is about doing a set of activities before one dies rather than quality of relationships.  It implies that the only reason to do the things is that we are going to die.

Sure, there are a lot of things I would like to do, but not because I will die soon.  Our lives are mists and vapors, and we could be gone tomorrow.  A colleague of mine had a student die walking into class one day.  Literally in the door way of the classroom, she fell dead from a brain aneurysm; early thirties, mother of three young children.  We tempt death every day the way we drive.

Of course, the other extreme is to not try new things ever, to be afraid, to sit on the sidelines.  No, no, no!  (Although my husband was talking about my riding his motorcycle up in the mountains today , and I was nervous about that.)

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