Transparency in the Church and Relationships

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 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4wYkS8Z3Io

A catchy song with a good message. 

But...

Why do we answer "fine" when people ask us How we are? or How are we doing? 

1. Timing. It's just in passing in the hallway at work on a busy day.No time and not a good time.

2. Our struggles are too complicated, deep, wounding, or shocking and the person is not equipped to handle them. 

3. We might not be able to explain without trashing or hurting another person involved. 

4. We are not ready to say. We can't. We haven't processed it. We haven't moved the experience from the amygdala to the verbal part of our brains. 

Still, we need a better answer than the meaningless "fine." "Facing some challenges but God is good" might do.

 

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