What I also notice is that the phrase "men and women" often occurs, even when persecution, jail, and martyrdom is mentioned. Why did the Jewish leaders want the women (and mothers of children) treated this way? Why did the Romans later treat the women as badly as the men in the torture and killing? If women are treated equally in martyrdom, why should they be unequal in other ways?
From a human perspective, these are logical arguments. I have mixed feelings about it. When women are spoken to in an exhorting way in the New Testament, it is almost always about their "mouths"--gossip, strife, busybodying, etc. That has not changed; some women like drama and stir it up with their talk. Women when they are younger should probably focus on their children, but after a certain age women have great wisdom. Why should a 60-year-old women be expected to follow the guidance of a 30-year-old pastor without question, just because he's a man? I think women should be ordained and on staffs of churches. However, I would still go by the tradition that the senior pastor be a man. The church has become way too feminized already.