Saturday, November 12, 2016

Epiphany of the day

I admit to being slow on the uptake.

I see now that anxiety, fear, or worry are  products of the illusion of Control.  (I capitalize it.)  If I think I am in control of other people (and therefore responsible for their behavior) and they are not doing what I want, I worry about how I am going to get their compliance.  All based on faulty logic.  I am not in control of them.  I am not responsible for their behavior.  Therefore, worry is futile.

Now, I am responsible for me, for sometimes meting out punishments, for dealing with outcomes, and for trying to make good conditions.  But people choose and I can't change that.

What a relief.   

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